THE MENTAL SIDE OF TRAINING (PART 4)

THE MENTAL SIDE OF TRAINING (PART 4)

BENG FULL AND STAYING HUNGRY - EXCERPT FROM LRB 

Every seminar I’ve done and each person I’ve ever talked to regarding coaching all have the same story regarding goals and complacence.

They set goals they desperately want to achieve. And when that happens.......they become very full. Complacency sets in, and the coast. The fire that drove them to reach those goals wanes, and sometimes dies altogether.
Without fail, I see it over and over again.
People feel sensible regarding their accomplishments, and they rest on their laurels.
Now, I believe everybody ought to in truth feel sensible regarding achieving their goals and moving the mountains that may are in their method.

What’s not good is to sink into complacency after that.
I will tell you why.

Without fail, the people that lose that hunger, eventually regress, and then only have their “stories” left to talk about what they USED TO BE.

I trained a lady once for quite a while that lost a major quantity of weight.

More than 100 pounds. When she reached a certain weight, which was still around 20 pounds above where I told her she needed to be, she told me “I feel good at this weight. That’s enough, I think this is fine.” It wasn’t fine.
The reason she didn’t need to push towards that further twenty pounds of weight loss was as a result of she felt it had been too intimidating.

In essence, she pushed out. What she had was good enough. Spare me the ideology about “being happy with where you are, nonsense. That’s exactly how people find themselves quitting or regressing. Which is exactly what happened to her.
Since then she’s gained a major quantity of her weight back and doesn’t train anymore.

I know quite a few women like this.
That they lost a major quantity of weight, and then tell people about it, but fail to mention that they haven’t made any progress in quite some time.

I think most of us know a few of these.

“I’ve lost X quantity of weight within the last X months/years.”

“What have you done since then?”

“Well I’ve been stuck for a short time at this weight, but I’m ok here”.

Whatever.

You’ve been stuck as a result of you're content and resting on your fucking laurels.

You’re way too god damned proud of yourself. Notice I say TOO PROUD. Be PROUD of what you have accomplished, but don’t ever let your accomplishments quench your thirst for improvement.
Men often do the same with their lifting.
“I wanted to bench/squat/deadlift/press X amount. And I did that.”
“What have you done since then?
” “Well, I’ve simply been reasonably you recognize.....fuck, yea nothing.”

Fucking whatever.
It is the same issue.
You’ve not affected past your goal in the slightest degree as a result of once you arrived, that fireplace left you. The immense feeling of urgency that drove you for many months has now dissipated and now you’re “full”.
The desire and hunger and want to urge higher is gone. You got your fat contract extension. Your teammates love you. The fans are chanting your name now.
You’re on your way to “has-been-ville”. There have been no PR’s in months and months. Hell, you don’t even know what the fuck you’d like to set a PR in!
There has been no fat loss in months and months. In fact, you think It is perfectly fine to have cheat meals whenever the fuck you want. You have dieted for months and months. You “paid your dues”. You can eat what you want now.

Listen, you’re either regarding convalescing, or you’re not. It is really that simple. You’re either getting better, or getting worse. The truth is, there is no stagnation. I know. I’ve been there. I’ve also watched dudes who said they could do something that they had trained months and months for, FAIL to have the ability to do it because they let their desire wane to the point that they had regressed.

You see, the reality is, time is always passing.
You are either doing things to boost, otherwise you can regress and acquire worse. Inching forward is still inching forward. Small improvements still count. It doesn’t matter if it is a single pound of weight loss in a month.
That’s twelve pounds of fat loss therein year. That’s better than none, or weight gain.

That five pounds you set on your bench is best than zero, or losing strength.

Set specific goals, for a month, three months, six months, a year, 10 fucking years I don’t care.
Do what you have got to try to to to retain that fireplace. To me, there is nothing more annoying than talking to someone who reached a certain “milestone” and brags about it, but then cannot talk about any future goals to get better. I know, I’ve been that person.
I awoke one morning to the conclusion that I hadn’t created any important progress in over a year.
A fucking year of my life gone, in the gym at least 3 days a week or more, with nothing to show for it. I annoyed myself.
If that’s you right now, then wake the fuck up and stop trying to rely on god damn motivational posters and sayings and stop resting on your fucking laurels. I write it all the time, you’re either about getting better, or you’re not.
But the actual fact is, you’re either regarding convalescing, or obtaining worse. There’s really no in-between.